Tea party Etiquette: The Rules!


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As much as I’m a cappuccino and cake kind of girl, I do love a good tea party – especially if it’s done properly. I know in the States, an afternoon tea party is considered to be a quintessentially British pastime. I’m sorry to be the bearer of bad news guys, but most of us here in the ‘old country’ don’t even own a piece of fine bone China, never mind drink from it every day. And I really cannot remember the last time I used a saucer. On the rare occasions I do drink tea, it’s usually from a cardboard cup – just like my cappuccino!

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But I do know a typically British afternoon tea party can be a fabulous occasional treat. We don’t have them every day or every week, but they are very popular for birthdays, bridal showers, little girls dressing-up tea parties, and just generally  when you feel like being a little bit girly and going overboard with the hats, gloves, tea dresses and pearls. Told you it’s not an every day thing!

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Tea parties can vary in terms of theme, style and food served, and there’ll be more about that in later posts. Although they are usually considered to be quite formal occasions, they don’t always have to be. They’re just great fun  and a chance to have a cup of tea and a natter with a huge slice of cake. However formal or not, there are certain rules (for want of a better word) which need to be taken into account for a smooth running party.

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So here’s the low-down on tea party etiquette.

TEA PARTY ETIQUETTE

IF YOU’RE THE HOSTESS:

1. Depending on how formal you want to be, you may want to send out invitations. Make sure you send these out in plenty of time.

2. Greet your guests as they come in. I don’t really think a handshake and a ‘how do you do?’ is necessary as one book suggested. Hello and a smile work just fine!

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2. Show guests to the table and invite them to sit down. Whether you give them assigned seating or allow them to chose their own seats is up to you.

3. As the hostess, it’s your job to serve each of the courses and pour the tea. Make sure the conversation is flowing and your guests are eating and drinking.

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4. It’s fine to arrange for someone else to do the serving if you wish so that you can concentrate on just having a good time with your guests.

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5. If you are not able to get outside help and you have a fairly large number of guests, you can nominate a couple of friends to help serve – especially if you know that they are happy to do so!

IF YOU’RE THE GUEST:

1. It’s always nice to bring a small gift for the hostess.

2. Take your place at the table and wait to be served.

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3. Keep your purse or handbag on your lap or behind your chair but not on the table.

4. When the party’s over, always send a handwritten note of thanks to your host – preferably within a week.

FOR EVERYONE:

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 1. Place napkins on your lap. If you need to leave the table, leave the napkin on your chair and not on the table.

2. No reaching across the table for anything. If you’d like something, ask someone to pass it to you.

3. It’s perfectly acceptable to eat with your fingers – no one eats sandwiches with a knife and fork – but anything that has the potential to be messy should be eaten with a fork.

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4. Remember that thick cream is for scones – not for tea.

5. Take small bites of the sandwiches no matter how tiny they are. Don’t cram a whole one into your mouth. Now is not the time for party pieces!

6. When eating scones or muffins, break off a bite-size piece, then put a small amount of butter and/or jam on it. If clotted cream is being served, a small amount can be dabbed on after the jam.

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7. Don’t dip the sugar tong or sugar spoon into your tea if you are taking sugar.

8. Stir the tea with your teaspoon and then place the teaspoon on the saucer behind the cup.

9. If your tea is too hot, simply leave it on the table to cool. Don’t blow on it to cool the tea down.

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10. Slurping is not acceptable!

11. And neither is dunking biscuits.

12. Whatever our American friends might say, nobody here sticks their little/pinky finger out when drinking tea from a teacup. Who does that???

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This is of course a rough guide and rules are open to interpretation. The most important rules which go without saying is that everyone should be happy, comfy, well-fed and having fun!

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Enjoy!!!

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Posted on September 23, 2014, in The Parlour and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.

  1. A great post! Even though I have lived in the UK for all of my 35 years (nearly 36, gulp), I’ve never been to a tea party! I’m going to add it to my 2015 resolutions list now 🙂

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    • Thank you! We’ve had tea parties before but nowhere near as fancy as this! I’ve attempted it in the past but with everyone being so busy it was never easy to get everyone together at the same time. But you’ve inspired me to go for it in 2015 xx

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